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I tredje avsnittet av What The Fluff gästas Estrid av Maxine Heron, här för att dela med sig av sin erfarenhet som transkvinna och vikten av att stötta unga transpersoner. Medan Maxine sitter i badet och rakar benen med sin Estrid i färgen Blush, beskriver hon sitt privilegium av att ha en stöttande familj samt transfobin hon upplevde efter att hon kom ut på internet. Många trans-barn får inte stödet de behöver och förtjänar, och för att ändra på det och motverka transfobi behöver vi ha fler öppna diskussioner och vara allierade med transpersoner.
Vad är “What The Fluff”?
Det bästa sättet att skapa förståelse och empati mellan människor är att prata om saker. Dem viktiga, svåra sakerna. Därför skapade Estrid ”What The Fluff”: en IGTV serie där vi bjöd in olika profiler för att prata om svåra saker. Från att bekämpa ätstörningar, till hur det är att leva med en kronisk sjukdom, och vikten av att stötta unga transpersoner - våra gäster har delat med sig om sina personliga erfarenheter kring en mängd olika ämnen, och hjälpt oss skapa en trygg miljö att prata i.
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Hi, my name is Maxine Heron, and you're joining me in the bath today with Estrid. I'm going to be talking about a subject which is really important to me and that is, supporting trans youths. I'm also going to be shaving my legs. So without further ado, let's get into it. I'm going to start off with some "Mood: Privacy Please", which I'm going to work into a foam on my legs.
And on the back, it says I'm going to be baby seal smooth. Which I'm very much looking forward to.
When talking about supporting trans youths, I'm, of course, drawing a lot from my own experience because I'm a trans woman and I just passed my two-year anniversary since coming out publicly and speaking about this. And, I think right now I'm feeling very reflective about my different experiences that have contributed to me being where I am today and being able to get on with my life in a way that has been such a privilege, I guess. I think it's so important that more people are doing this and sharing the mic with people who have that lived experience to draw upon so we can have really informed answers and really informed discussions around these topics. So going into my own journey a little bit, I first put into words to my mum that I was a girl when I was six and it was 20 years ago. It was in a time when Google wasn't really even a thing. It was at a time when we are really just working it out for ourselves largely and quite an interesting time.
I remember one time we were meeting with this therapist as a family to work out what happened to make me trans. It was so unhelpful and there wasn't any information available. It felt like we were kind of educating the professionals around us at that point. And we've come such a long way since then and it's strange. I kind of think I expected for it to get easier and easier over time for kids to be open about themselves and exploring their identity and seeing where it goes. But actually, I think it's getting harder and harder, and that's because of so many different contributing factors. We have people in parliament that are not pro-trans, and we have public figures that are really regressing so much of what has been such an advanced conversation for so long.
It's really dangerous. There's so much misinformation out there and I feel like so often people come from a place of bias when they speak about this because they just have no idea what they're talking about. They don't know what it's like. I just think it's so important that we're approaching these conversations from a place of wanting to make all kids feel loved and supported and secure and free to explore who they are. And that is an all-encompassing kind of attitude that we should be approaching with these discussions for trans kids as well.
I feel like so often I've seen families be completely kind of ripped apart by parents who just can't get their head around the fact that this is how it's going to go. No one ever chooses to be trans, no one ever chooses to have a trans kid, but, if you end up having one, it's not something that can be treated by, for example, making your child go through a puberty that they would have never chosen for themselves. I genuinely believe that doing that, forcing a child to go through puberty in the hope that it'll cure them of their transness is a form of conversion therapy. And what do we know about conversion therapy? It doesn't work, so don't do it. I really feel as though the privileges that were afforded to me during my childhood and in my teens will literally be benefiting me for the rest of my life.
The fact that I'm not read as trans when people first meet me and it's kind of quite shocking to a lot of people is kind of a privilege because it means that my job prospects have never been limited. It means that my relationships have been less fetishized. It means that people have not jumped to conclusions about me when they first meet me based on one trait of what I am or who I am or my lived experience.
That in itself is privilege, and I think that's something that should be afforded to everyone. I think these conversations around regressing trans rights and regressing medical care for under sixteens and limiting the support that's available to trans kids is an incredibly dangerous conversation to have, because overwhelmingly, speaking from personal experience and also from the experience of every trans person I've ever met that was able to get on with their life and get that transition kind of out of the way, in a sense.
Yeah, there's so much freedom with that. There's so much security with that and I don't know anyone that's ever come to regret it. I think my parents and my family set an amazing example of how to navigate life with a trans kid. It just felt like it was the most normal thing in the world. They never made me feel like an obstacle and I'd say even my home life, my home setting was just such a safe space for me that I didn't know that transphobia was a thing until I transitioned.
And then every now and then people would hear I was trans. And when I came out as trans two years ago, publicly online, I had a bit of backlash. It was interesting and kind of a shock to me that not everyone would be cool with this. And that's OK, I guess. You know, everyone's got an opinion. But the fact that I was raised in such a fearlessly supportive home, my parents didn't care what anyone thought of us. My parents knew that they were doing the right thing. I've always been the same person and they could see that.
That has changed everything for me, I don't think I'd be here right now if it wasn't for that unconditional support that I had from home. My advice to people who aren't sure how to feel about trans kids or trans people, in general, is to hear us, hear our stories, hear what we have to say.
I think it's so important that we're drawing from the experience of the people who literally go through this. So much of being trans is literally like reconciling with who you are, and it's not an easy thing to do, and to be told that you're wrong for doing so on such a regular basis is just pretty crushing, to be honest. So please, just try and stay as informed as you can. Look at your media sources, if you want to take it a step further, if you want to be supportive of trans people and trans youths then look into charities that you can support and work with.
It can be as simple as putting your pronouns in your bio to help people know that they're seen and respected and that you're considering them and their needs as well. So, yeah, more trans allyship, please. We can all definitely do more to support the trans community. There really shouldn't be so much adversity against us given that we're such a small part of the population. But, we move. That's all for me today. Thank you so much to Estrid for having me on your platform.
It's been a joy. My legs are silky smooth. Baby seal, what kind of noise does a baby seal make? EEK!
And that's all for today's episode of What The Fluff. Thank you so much to Estrid for having me featured on your platform to discuss supporting trans youths.
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