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I avsnitt 5 av What The Fluff gästas Estrid av Caroline Alcantara Glasman. Caroline har en hårig rygg, och hon är här för att berätta om skammen hon kände under sin uppväxt på grund av sitt mörka kroppshår och mobbningen hon utsatts för som fick henne att känna sig osäker. Numera gillar Caroline sitt kroppshår och ser det som en vacker del av hennes ursprung och inte som något som behöver rakas bort för att göra män till lags.
Vad är “What The Fluff”?
Det bästa sättet att skapa förståelse och empati mellan människor är att prata om saker. Dem viktiga, svåra sakerna. Därför skapade Estrid ”What The Fluff”: en IGTV serie där vi bjöd in olika profiler för att prata om svåra saker. Från att bekämpa ätstörningar, till hur det är att leva med en kronisk sjukdom, och vikten av att stötta unga transpersoner - våra gäster har delat med sig om sina personliga erfarenheter kring en mängd olika ämnen, och hjälpt oss skapa en trygg miljö att prata i.
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Hi, my name is Caroline, and I am here today with Estrid to talk about having a hairy back as a part of their series What The Fluff.
My insecurities surrounding my back hair actually stems from an insecurity about having body hair in general, because there is this underlying agreement that women have hair on their bodies and that we should shave some of it off. We have hairy legs, we have hairy armpits, we have hairy parts around our genitals. The problem that I have encountered is when you have hairy parts of your body that don't fit the norm, or aren't considered "normal" body hair, and then there's a stigma created. To my understanding, my body hair is only supposed to grow on certain areas of my body to be considered OK or normal by others. Well, what happens when your hair grows around your ass crack or on your back or on your shoulders? What happens is you're considered weird almost to the point of exclusion, not only by men, but also by women. Because as I mentioned before, your hair is supposed to grow elsewhere, not on your back or on your shoulders.
Before I made this video, I googled "shaving your back". And what popped up was videos and how-to articles centered around men and adverts surrounding "manly" razors, that help in shaving you back with no issues. I got no results for women. So I searched again and added the word woman. There were no general how-to articles, but there were articles with headlines like "is having a hairy back normal" and "is having a hairy back normal for women?" "Is it an issue if I, a woman, have a hairy back" or "is back hair attractive"? The normality of back hair is constructed only surrounding men, which makes back hair into something manly and non-feminine. I always felt out of place because of this, because I am mixed, Swedish and Chilean, which means that I am white with dark hair. During the more pale seasons in Sweden, a.k.a. every season except summer, my dark hair and my dark eyes pop against my white skin, and that makes my hair subjected to everyone's eyes, including mine. When I was young I hated my body hair. I wanted it to be less visible, less out there for everyone to see. And I wanted so, so badly to be pale and blonde, so I wouldn't hear comments like, "Oh, it's a gorilla" or "you're disgusting", or "Look, it's a man". Not only did I feel ugly because of my own ideas of how I should look, as a woman, but I also felt ugly because both adults and children around me were telling me it was wrong for a girl to have as much hair as I did. And that only fueled the fire of self-hatred that I had for myself because of my body hair.
I grew up feeling ashamed of something that I can't control, something that I can't biologically do anything about. We as women grew up with the notion that something that is actually natural for both men and women is only natural for men and therefore unnatural for women.
Women are taught to remove something that is considered manly so we can be perceived as feminine. But at the same time, what makes hair manly since everyone has it?
I never got to shaving my back as a teenager because... Mostly because I was lazy. And now I have a hairy back. I have hair from my neck down to my ass crack, so everywhere. I've always felt ashamed of my hair back, mostly because it felt like I lost my own femininity, that I so much longed for, something that I, according to society, needed to be perceived as a woman. It took me a long time to forget the notion that being hairy versus non-hairy doesn't mean feminine versus non-feminine.
What I went through when I was younger still haunts me sometimes when I look in the mirror. But now I have people around me, most of them women, that can talk about hair and being hairy and how beautiful it can be and the beauty of being a hairy woman. Since I have younger sisters and younger cousins, I have to put myself in their shoes. When I was younger, I needed someone older than me to tell me, like, hey, it's OK that you have a hairy back. It's beautiful and it's a part of you and you have your own unique map on your back that shows everyone who you are. The struggle that we as women have surrounding body hair and having back hair doesn't have an age. We as hairy women are role models to not only the generations younger than us but also the generations older than us. I think it's important to think about that because my older relatives who are women have this cultural notion that they grew up with that makes body hair equal to being ugly.
If me having body hair and being proud of that is a little provocative or a conversation starter, so be it, because I can be the change that is so needed in a community with such a stigma created around being a hairy woman, especially with dark hair. Now I still struggle with my body hair, just like the next woman, but I still carry my back hair with pride because I realized recently, that, that my body hair is my unique map, it's a part of me and it shows who I am as a person. It Is beautiful. It has curves and swirls and keeps me warm during the winter. And it's golden and shiny during the summer and it's beautiful. That's why I try to encourage every woman that has visible back hair to own it. Because if you won't, then who else will?
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